I Still Love YOU !!

I really tried so hard to hide,
What I really feel inside,
I tried to show you that I'm fine,
That my heart is really mine.

But even though how much i try,
There's one thing I can't deny,
The fact that hey, I love you still,
And that is what i really feel.

I know that i should put this to end,
And accept that we're only just friends,
I don't know why I can't do,
Or should i say i don't want to?

I know it's kinda impossible,
But i'd still hope while i'm able,
I hope someday you'll open your heart,
And let us make a brand new start.

Let's forget all the others,
Your love and mine are all that matters,
Let's live our life together,
And forever love one another.

But if you think that my fantasy,
Is impossible, so I shouldn't plead,
Then i'll accept that we'll never be,
Coz I know you don't love me.

But don't ask me to stop loving you,
Coz that's one thing I can never do,
And if someday you ask me if i still do,
I'd say- Hey, i still love you!!

Inflation.. Is it killing us??

Surely, we are being murdered brutally. Inflation is running in double digits. The major contributors are rising food prices and high cost of imported crude. Damn! The petrol prices in Jammu have surged to Rs. 69/ litre and everytime there is a hike in petrol prices, it creates an inflationary surge for other commodities too. 
 
 The price of petrol has been decontrolled by the Government, yet we pay high taxes which kills us on both counts. About food inflation, the recent increase in vegetable and fruit prices is putting an additional burden on the already strained household budgets of the common man in India. The prices of pulses and spices, a major ingredient of India, rose 2 to 3 three last year. Followed by that were the increasing prices of essential commodities like edible oil, milk, grains, staple vegetables like onion, potato, ginger, garlic, fruits, etc,. there seems nothing which is untouched by this inflation.


  Yesterday only there was a headline that Indian Agriculture minister  Sharad Pawaar was slapped by an Indian youth at a public function. The assailant was identified as Harwinder Singh. He later claimed that he was angry with corruption and inflation issues. And i bet, there are many more people who would love to do the same. 


  I really do not understand what measures the Agriculture Ministry takes to monitor market situations, facilitate smooth flow of goods from one place to another, forecast shortages, prevent hoarding and provide a decent price to the farmers. In most of these price surges, it is the middleman and the hoarder who makes a quick buck and not the poor farmer. We see images of grain rotting due to lack of storage areas. It never strikes the people to give this for free to the poor than to allow it to rot. The government starts crying and blaming the monsoon and everything else except their own incompetence. The Agriculture Minister is busy presiding over cricket events, and Agriculture Ministry seems clueless. We hear insane statements like the demand is increasing and people are becoming wealthier as the cause behind price rise!


  With a government ridden with corruption and a lethargic set of people who always try to make some noises in the face of full-blown crises, I show a huge thumbs down to this so-called government for the aam aadmi. Damn, why must we suffer like this? We pay our taxes and live as decent citizens, yet look at what we get in return. I hate it when they throw economic growth rate figures as a measure of progress. A country that cannot give its citizens two decent square meals in a day, clean drinking water, sanitation and basic health facilities should not talk about progress. The entire thinking of our political class is skewed only towards one end -- wealth generation for themselves!


 Obviously, inflation is actually the result of immoral trade between corporates and politicians and we the common people suffer the consequences of this immorality in form of price rise whose direct consequence is poverty and increasing economic difference.

  What is the way out to deal with this large-scale discontent and mismanagement -- street protests?

Eternal Moments and Memories for Life ..

The past may have been history, but the memories it left behind remains for eternity. 

Life is about Moments & Memories.  The things you do in today’s moments will be tomorrow’s memories.  It’s important that we embrace every single moment, understanding it’s true potential for lasting memories.  If you talk to anyone that has lost someone they loved, they will always talk about the Moments & Memories that they had with that person.  The same thing is true for the parents that look back and remember when their children were toddlers and next thing you know they are graduating from high school

  My mom looks back on the special times in her life, thinking especially about her now-departed husband(my dad) and the things they did together. Though it is sad that these times are now gone, she is comforted by her memories and by the hope of sharing in the lives of her child and future grandchildren. 

   Thus, all of our moments are precious gifts from God.  Take some time today to look at your moments at work, with your kids, your friends and your spouse differently.  Realize that those special moments are special gifts that will produce special memories.

   

   No matter what you do, do it from the perspective of asking these two questions:  Are the things that I’m doing in today’s moments creating the right memories for tomorrow?  Am I finding the God moments even in the little things?

   If you long for the perfect moment, the perfect moment will pass you by :)

I treasure sweet old memories

As the time goes swiftly by

A few bring smiles of happiness

And some tears to the eye.

Great Moments with Great memories !

Karma is a Bitch somewhere in hiding...............

Karma is a bitch if you are a bitch :D 

According to the vedas, "If one sows goodness, they will reap goodness. If one sows evil, they will reap evil."

  " Karma refers to the totality of our actions and their concomitant reactions in this and previous lives, all of which determines our future."- Taken from Wickipedia
  What goes around comes around!!

It's pretty difficult to believe in it. Isn't it? Karma, in modern day analogy is like a Bank account- If you do something good, your Karmic account will increase by a certain value. If you do something bad, it will reduce by a certain value. You cannot check your Karmic balance, but it is all accounted for, at the end of your life. Or perhaps multiplies lives.

  Shit happens!! Today you stamped on it, tomorrow they will.

  So basically the whole point is when you do do something, say something to somebody, be very careful. Be very, very careful if  you hurt them without reason, if you screw their case purposely and they get genuinely hurt. Karma makes sure it drops by you and kicks your butt.

  One gets rewarded according to their deeds. So it's all about the game of karma and winning this game leads to framing one's destiny.

   People say God  exists for everyone, he is present everywhere. People look for him, be it good news, or bad news and believe he will help as he is the ALMIGHTY, the Supreme Creator and the Father of all.

  But how is it possible for God to help both good and bad people for accomplishing their goals??

  For that we shouldn't forget god is inside every living being in this universe. But how to identify the God within?

  For that i must say "Our Karma is the biggest God!!"

Note: I know many of you will have contradictory issues with the title and the last line(like i said Karma is a bitch. And then i said it is the biggest God). I don't mean any harm. No offence. Chill!

Karvachauth 15 Oct 2011

I too miss you today. Wish the fasts mom kept for you would have made a difference. Love 


He wasn't a hero,
Known by the world.
But a hero he was,
To his little girl.

My daddy was God,
Who knew all things.
And better than Santa,
With the gifts he'd bring.

I love you pops 

Breaking Up is Hard! But does it have to be hateful?

The end of relationship may be full of hurt, but it does not need to be full of hate!!
  Almost all adults have had a broken relationship in their lives. We learn something, remember something, grow from it and then move on usually. Many people want break-up to go over as smooth as possible.
  Sometimes, people leave a relationship with a lot of hurt feelings and even more hostility and anger. A few people may even get a little crazy after you break up with them. I find that difficult to understand. If you loved someone enough to have a relationship with them, then why do you want to hurt or destroy them? Sadly, this happens more than we know or hope!!
  I have seen women who have spend many years with a man only to leave him and try to take everything from him. Maybe he was unfaithful or abusive. May be he left her for another woman, or may be man :p May be they grew in different directions. And sometimes he leaves because the woman was constantly accusing him or being unfaithful or other shortcomings. Why try to destroy his life? If he is that bad, he will himself destroy his life and won't need your help.
  There have been many men who after separating from their lady love continue to stalk her or threaten her. Sometimes, they even threaten the new man in her life. They don't seem to realize that many times this pain and hurt only makes the woman stronger and more determined to succeed in life.
  I know breakups are painful, that is a given, but why can you treat it like leaving a job. You walk away, take some time to heal, realize what you have learnt from that relationship and then you turn that knowledge inward, grow from it, and find a new and better relationship. You don't have to accept physical or mental abuse or that you don't have to tolerate being cheated on, or even that you n't stand a slob. Get a Life!
  If you want out, or are out of a relationship, step back, take a deep breathe, remember the good times, truly forgive them and yourself, and then move on with your life.  You will be healthier and happier for it. Holding onto hurt and hate only destroys you more.
  Life should be cherished, love should be adored, and friends and family need to be held close and never betrayed. Live happy, love long, smile often !!

Facetime Vs Facebook

Social media sites, chat online sites, in general have taken the world by storm and have been a wonderful addition to our life and lifestyle. I appreciate the possibility to stay in touch and share the news, pictures, videos and to have a less expensive alternative to communicate more freely and regularly with friends, relatives, long distance lovers, etc. But, with every new invention there are some definite set backs through overuse by spending too much time or having a false balance in your lifestyle. It can cause irreparable damage, So Beware! 


   While it is a great tool that we can use to keep in touch with our distant loved ones, make new friends, share ideas, it could be the very thing that is robbing of us of one of the most important things that we have and also most valuable to those around us- OUR TIME


  I have personally witnessed many a stories of how social media has been the cause of break-ups of couples and families due to it coming between the people involved. People have lost presence in the real world due to their over-presence in the virtual world. Some also try to find their soul-mates online leaving behind their prior commitments.
  
  Then. there is also a debate over putting most of your personal stuff on social world. Life is too short to allow your relations to downgrade for a cause like this. Any addiction is a PRISON. I once heard a story of the prison Inmate who passed a way after spending the better part of his life behind the bars that when they went into his cell to collect the few items left behind, there on the wall written hundreds of times were some of the saddest words in the English language, "If only I had, If only I had, If only I had".


  Use your time wisely. Use these wonderful new and great tools of technology, just don't allow them to use you, lest you too may be heard saying, "I only I had............"
  

Text Fights.. Suck .. Big Time !!

Its a mobile and facebook World. Less we talk and more we chat !!

Texts start off fine: “Hi babe! I just woke up. Love you!”

You start exchanging chitchats for a bit, and then for whatever reason, something someone says triggers the fight.. “You went WHERE, WITH WHOM??”

…and then it begins.

Since the era of text messaging began, I have been in one too many text fights – either with my then-boyfriend, my mom, my brother, my best friend, the list is endless. One good thing about text fights is that you can stop and think about what you are about to say to the other person without having the pressure of them impatiently waiting for you to answer back. But, even though I sometimes engage myself into one, I do understand how they’re wrong and not helpful for the fight:

1. It’s more hurtful than intended. There are just some people who are bad in putting their words together on paper (or text). When we email, text or write to someone, we tend to exaggerate things – as compared when we were talking in person wherein we try to be nice as we watch the other person’s reaction. But since in texting we don’t see them, we might not realize how much our statement hurt them.

2. Too much hassle. Since we bring our phone with us ALL the time, text fights can be a real pain in the ass. I remember having to work and get all distracted because I keep glancing at my phone for new messages. That’s why I seriously support companies who forbid their cellphones at work. Replying during a text fight just consumes 5 minutes of your productivity each and every time.

3. Miscommunication. Let’s face it. Sometimes someone says something and we can’t figure out what the hell they meant by that. Is he angry? Was that sarcasm? Without hearing the tone of voice and seeing their body language, it’s so much easier to misconstrue what the other person is trying to say.

4. No take-backs. When fighting, we sometimes get caught up in the moment and say things we don’t mean. When you are fighting in person, those harsh words are sometimes forgotten in the frenzy of all that’s said. But in text fights, you or the other person can go back to the previous messages on the phone and be reminded of all the messed up things you guys said to one another. And you may end up fighting all over again.

5. It’s plain & blunt useless. After a long exchange of harsh words to each other, one usually just ends up calling the other person or going to the person to fight face to face. What happened to working out our issues in person?? Have we really become that impersonal to hide behind our phones in cases of conflict? It’s just too emotionless.

Grrr. I hate it so Much !!

Is it a Crush or Just Fraaannddshiippp ?

"I LOVE YOU"
Its a sentence we all have probably used one time or another. This is an elaborated version of *two best Friends* Remember only "BEST FRIENDS"   :

He's your good friend. She's your best confidant. You have known each other's from years and have discussed even the silliest of topics. You have confided to each other about your latest love interest and turned to one another for support when the relationship(s) failed. You can't imagine life without your good friend.

But for a while....

You've felt jealous of his dates. You've been overprotective of her since she has been seeing the jerk. You've been having  very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship. Could it be that your feelings for him/her have grown into something more? If so, your relationship may have developed into a "friend crush".. 

You don't know what to do. You know you want to continue spending time together- more time. But it's getting hard. You fantasize about having more with this person and are beginning to feel like a jealous would-be partner. Do you pretend everything is the same? Do you start distancing yourself- hoping your feelings will go back to the way they were? Do you actually TALK directly and honestly with your friend about how you feel?

What will happen to the relationship if you make the WRONG choice?

Just as all people are unique, so are the characteristics of their relationships with others. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this increasingly common dilemma. So, let's take a look at your options. You can:

* ignore your feelings, keep your boundaries in check and pretend everything is Normal.

In order to choose this option, you must be able to deny your feelings so well that even you don't know what they are. You will also have to continue being comfortable on the sidelines while someone else has the relationship with this person that you desire. You will most likely be asked what you think of this or that person and be expected to be happy and supportive of your friend when they meet the right someone for them. In return for all this, you will still have your friend.

* begin to spend less time with your friend (crush) while seeking out new friendships to pursue and strengthen

This option will most likely cause confusion and hurt on the part of your friend who will wonder what happened. They may be understanding and accepting of your need to spread your wings and support you in doing what you need to do. Either way, you will see less of them and your relationship can weaken and perhaps disappear altogether as they move on with new people. If you can distance yourself for a while and no longer feel the romantic butterflies, you can always give them a call and may be able to pick up somewhere near where you left off.

* continue the relationship with your own hidden agendas - a desire for romantic intimacy and the hope that the person will realize that they feel the same way

If they become involved with someone else in the meantime, you can work to sabotage their new relationship or you can leave them wondering where all your anger and hurt feelings are coming from. You can spend a lot of time and energy handling it this way, without anything to show for your efforts but the loss of a good friend.

* have an open and honest discussion with your friend regarding your new feelings for them

This is the choice that seems to be the hardest for folks to make. Often what I hear from people in this position is that they fear "ruining the friendship" if they discuss their feelings honestly. While this is a very understandable concern, it isn't well thought out. It is emotional, not rational. Look again at the other options. Every one will bring about a change in your current friendship.

Why?

Once your feelings have changed, so does the relationship. Ignoring them, hiding them or distancing yourself will lessen your closeness and the positive dynamics that flow between good friends. You can't go back. You need to decide how you want to move forward or if this is an option for you. . It is also possible in choosing this option that you will learn that they have similar feelings for you that they were afraid to reveal. Therefore choosing this option could result in romance and a love relationship based on true friendship.

Intimacy exists in all close relationships. It is the ability to be completely open and vulnerable to another without fear of harm or rejection. So, by definition, we cannot be intimate with another while hiding or denying our true feelings and needs to them.

The choice will always be yours. Choosing wisely is about really knowing the options, the consequences they bring and what will be best for you and your friend.