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The end of relationship may be full of hurt, but it does not need to be full of hate!!
Almost all adults have had a broken relationship in their lives. We learn something, remember something, grow from it and then move on usually. Many people want break-up to go over as smooth as possible.
Sometimes, people leave a relationship with a lot of hurt feelings and even more hostility and anger. A few people may even get a little crazy after you break up with them. I find that difficult to understand. If you loved someone enough to have a relationship with them, then why do you want to hurt or destroy them? Sadly, this happens more than we know or hope!!
I have seen women who have spend many years with a man only to leave him and try to take everything from him. Maybe he was unfaithful or abusive. May be he left her for another woman, or may be man :p May be they grew in different directions. And sometimes he leaves because the woman was constantly accusing him or being unfaithful or other shortcomings. Why try to destroy his life? If he is that bad, he will himself destroy his life and won't need your help.
There have been many men who after separating from their lady love continue to stalk her or threaten her. Sometimes, they even threaten the new man in her life. They don't seem to realize that many times this pain and hurt only makes the woman stronger and more determined to succeed in life.
I know breakups are painful, that is a given, but why can you treat it like leaving a job. You walk away, take some time to heal, realize what you have learnt from that relationship and then you turn that knowledge inward, grow from it, and find a new and better relationship. You don't have to accept physical or mental abuse or that you don't have to tolerate being cheated on, or even that you n't stand a slob. Get a Life!
If you want out, or are out of a relationship, step back, take a deep breathe, remember the good times, truly forgive them and yourself, and then move on with your life. You will be healthier and happier for it. Holding onto hurt and hate only destroys you more.
Life should be cherished, love should be adored, and friends and family need to be held close and never betrayed. Live happy, love long, smile often !!
Almost all adults have had a broken relationship in their lives. We learn something, remember something, grow from it and then move on usually. Many people want break-up to go over as smooth as possible.Sometimes, people leave a relationship with a lot of hurt feelings and even more hostility and anger. A few people may even get a little crazy after you break up with them. I find that difficult to understand. If you loved someone enough to have a relationship with them, then why do you want to hurt or destroy them? Sadly, this happens more than we know or hope!!
I have seen women who have spend many years with a man only to leave him and try to take everything from him. Maybe he was unfaithful or abusive. May be he left her for another woman, or may be man :p May be they grew in different directions. And sometimes he leaves because the woman was constantly accusing him or being unfaithful or other shortcomings. Why try to destroy his life? If he is that bad, he will himself destroy his life and won't need your help.There have been many men who after separating from their lady love continue to stalk her or threaten her. Sometimes, they even threaten the new man in her life. They don't seem to realize that many times this pain and hurt only makes the woman stronger and more determined to succeed in life.
I know breakups are painful, that is a given, but why can you treat it like leaving a job. You walk away, take some time to heal, realize what you have learnt from that relationship and then you turn that knowledge inward, grow from it, and find a new and better relationship. You don't have to accept physical or mental abuse or that you don't have to tolerate being cheated on, or even that you n't stand a slob. Get a Life!
If you want out, or are out of a relationship, step back, take a deep breathe, remember the good times, truly forgive them and yourself, and then move on with your life. You will be healthier and happier for it. Holding onto hurt and hate only destroys you more.Life should be cherished, love should be adored, and friends and family need to be held close and never betrayed. Live happy, love long, smile often !!
very truly said, but one thing i still trying to figure out how can one person ignore other even though they know every thing about them. at least give a smile when you pass by. may be understanding girls is the most difficult subject. that is why even god is still trying to figure out.
ReplyDeleteNicely written. Now it would be better if you move on to write something other than love and relationship! :)
ReplyDelete@Gaurav: Its not only just girls, it is difficult to totally understand any individual. Anyhow thanks!
ReplyDelete@Naman: ummmm. Suggest me a good topic! I can think and try :)